Saturday, June 27, 2009

People come into your life for ....

Disclaimer: This is not my writing, One of my friends had mailed this to me. I am posting this here, since it touched me deeply.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then,something happens, the relationship comes to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes you are forced to make some hard decisions. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Friday, June 19, 2009

The Downward Trend Continues...

Its been one of those weeks. Where nothing seems to go right in your life. Be it work. Your personal life. Your health. The World's Financial Situation. Everything just goes one way. DOWN.

No matter how hard you try, No matter what you do, Things just go the opposite way.
It seems that fate/destiny
(which I dont believe in) is on a mission to screw you.

Why do I say this. The week started off with a continuation from the left over stresses of last week. I was emotionally bugged and fed up with my life. So as always I was day dreaming. And this time, dreaming while riding. And the next thing I know, I hear a big crash and am flying above the road like a superman and landed around 10 feet away from where I started flying.
Both my palms GONE. Both my knees GONE. One elbow GONE. One foot GONE.

I dont wanna bore you anymore with my bodily ailments. So to summarize. I am hobbling on one leg and typing with one hand :)

Looking forward to some crappy times ahead...


Sunday, June 14, 2009

The Dev D Syndrome


I normally don't watch Hindi movies. Its just once in a while that a movie comes along which impresses me to watch it over and over again.

After getting my new connection I decided to download the hip-new age version of our very own (very old) DevDas in its modern, anglicized version and now being called DevD. I was sure that I would not be disappointed with this, after all this was a Abhay Deol movie, who is the contemporary Shahrukh Khan, Ambitabh Bachhan of the Weird newage Multiplex cinema.

Now i will try and not make this into a review of the movie. What I want to talk about is, why does the youth liked DevD and not Devdas.

Almost everyone knows of this story in India, some due to the original book Mr. Sharat Chandra Chattopadhyay. Some due to the 1955 film by Mr. Bimal Roy, or if you are someone from the 80's 90's due to the Aishwarya and Madhuri tandem dance in the new Devdas of year 2002 by Mr. Sanjay Leela Bhansali. Depending upon your year of birth you would know the story. And if you dont. Below is a brief synopsis:

The story of the unlucky Bengali lad who falls for the girl next door, is not able to get her to marry her , so ends up drinking like a fish and killing himself. While meeting some more colorful characters like a courtesan (prostitute being a taboo word) and another drunkard like him.

If you are someone like me (not a Shahrukh, Aishwarya, Madhuri fan) I think you would also not like the new Devdas of 2002.

After all the dude looses the chick who has been in love with him since they wore diapers. He has no dearth of money, good education (London Baby!!) and everything else going for him. But still he manages to loose the chick , the love of his life.
Ok... I agree breakups are hard. Specially the long term relationships. I have been there as well.
I can also understand Mr Devdas's boozing. Comeon, if a guy wants to get wasted he should not have to have search for any excuses. A breakup is as good as one.
He goes poking into shady corners of the town. (Ahhemm...Ahhemm... To each his own). And finds ChickNo-2. So far so good. But in the end he ends up dying. And that too in the front steps of the Chick No -1.
Not done dude.

I know the book was written in a different age and was a rage then. The plight of the dude, the love for the chick. Blah Blah.

I think thats where Mr DevD hits a chord with us, where Mr Devdas failed to.
Mr DevD also boozes, does drugs,
gets high, gets wasted, gets laid (for money). But in the end does not kill himself. Instead he gets his ChickNo -2 and is supposedly lives happily ever after.

Now thats a much better ending then the original story was.

He finds happiness for himself from what he has. He recovers, he does not curl up and die. He rides off into the sunset with his damsel.

Everyone wishes for happy endings to their life. And I for one was very happy for Mr DevD. Kudos....


Why should Life Move on ?

Just like I have, I am sure you would have also heard this phrase at least once in your life. When things go wrong. When life screws you. When you are unhappy. When you loose something most precious to you. Everyone has this age old adage to add. “Don’t worry Life Moves on”.

Everyone expects you to forget things, forget your wishes, forget your fantasies, your goals, and your aim. They expect you to stop dreaming and get down to reality. Face the hard facts that you have lost. You couldn’t achieve what you had set out for. That you are a loser. That
FATE dealt you a bad hand. That it was written in your destiny. It was not meant to be. They expect you to deal with it and move on.

I disagree with such people. Why
SHOULD life move on? Why should people be content with what they have? Why not strive endlessly for something they could not achieve at the present moment. Of course I agree that it would lead them to pain and misery for a short time during the pursuit. But when the goal is achieved, the satisfaction, the happiness the contentment achieved can wash away any hardships, any pain, any sorrow, any wounds inflicted upon the way.

But sometimes, this does not hold true. Sometimes no matter how hard you try, you can’t get back what you have lost in your life. Sometimes you wish you were GOD to turn back the clock, set the wrongs and right, undo things and get back what you have lost. But that’s not possible. You are not God and you have not created a time machine either I suppose.
So my dear friend at these times what would you do? Do you
DEAL WITH IT, forget about it. Let it go. Or in other words, MOVE ON IN LIFE?

I leave that for you to decide. I am not a preacher. I am not some guru to show you the divine light and set the wrongs right.

I am just a human being who knows in his heart, what he would do. When the next time someone says
“Move on in Life”.